Read on for tips on how to make sure your wedding venue is inclusive.
If you've spent 10 minutes wedding planning, you've probably already realized that it's an incredibly heteronormative industry, and it can be challenging to find venues and vendors that are not only eager to work with LGBTQ+ couples, but that also create an inclusive experience for the couples and/or their guests.
Which is why we're here to guide you through some tips and considerations to note while you're venue hunting, to ensure that your big day is a joyous celebration for everyone involved.
1. Do Your Research
Before booking a venue, spend some time researching places that are known for their inclusivity. Check out venues on Love Inc.'s vendor guide, browse our real wedding and inspiration shoot content (note: we've personally vouched for all venues and vendors featured, even ones from hetero weddings), visit their social media and website and look for any signs that the venue is LGBTQ+ inclusive. Are they showcasing diverse couples on their website? Do they use inclusive language? These are good indicators that the venue is a safe space for all love stories.
2. Ask the Right Questions
When you’re touring potential venues, don’t be shy about asking questions. Here are some to consider:
- Have you hosted LGBTQ+ weddings before?
- How do you handle name changes and pronouns on official documents?
- Are your staff trained in LGBTQ+ sensitivity and inclusivity?
- Can you accommodate any specific needs or requests we might have to make our day more comfortable for everyone?
Their answers will give you a good sense of their experience and willingness to make your day perfect.
3. Check the Policies
Make sure the venue’s policies are inclusive. This includes everything from the language they use in contracts to how they handle guest accommodations. Look for gender-neutral restrooms, flexible changing room options, and inclusive language throughout their paperwork.
Pro Tip: If a venue’s policies aren’t clear, ask if they’re willing to make adjustments. A venue that’s truly inclusive will be open to making necessary changes.
4. Note the Space
In an ideal world, you’ll find an amazing venue that has two, equally designed getting-ready rooms. Unfortunately, many venues still boast a “bridal suite” that is much bigger than the “groom’s room” to accommodate hair and makeup artists, and often decorated with a traditional bride in mind. This can be particularly frustrating for many LGBTQ+ couples, and if the rooms aren’t to your liking, do not feel obligated to get ready there.
5. Look at the Staff
The staff at your venue can make or break your wedding experience. During your tour, pay attention to how the staff interacts with you and your partner. Did they make assumptions that you were sisters instead of partners? Are they respectful and kind? Do they make an effort to use correct pronouns and names? An inclusive venue will have a team that’s trained to be welcoming and respectful to all couples.
6. Consider the Surroundings
Your wedding is not just about the venue itself but also the surrounding area. Is the neighborhood safe for LGBTQ+ folx? Are there nearby accommodations that are inclusive? You want your guests to feel comfortable and safe throughout the entire celebration.
7. Inclusivity in Vendor Recommendations
A truly inclusive venue will have a list of recommended vendors who are also equality-minded®. This can include everything from florists and photographers to DJs and caterers. Ask your venue if they have a preferred vendor list and if those vendors are known for their inclusivity. Ideally, they're exclusively working with equality-minded vendors, but in the event that one of their preferred vendors is not — and they require this particularly category to be pulled from their vendor list such as caterers or florists — make sure that the venue is willing to
9. Personalized Touches
Your wedding should reflect you and your partner’s unique love story. Look for venues that are willing to accommodate personalized touches that celebrate your identity. This could be anything from a rainbow-themed cake to a non-traditional ceremony setup. A venue that’s flexible and open to your ideas is a good sign that they’re committed to making your day special.
10. Celebrate Diversity
Choose a venue that celebrates diversity in all forms. This could be through art, decor, or even the events they host. A venue that regularly features diverse artists, events, and celebrations is more likely to be inclusive and welcoming to all.
Example: If a venue hosts Pride events or has art that celebrates different cultures and identities, it’s a good indicator that they value diversity.
11. Comfort for All Guests
Think about the comfort of all your guests. Are there spaces where guests can feel comfortable and safe? This includes having private spaces for changing or nursing, gender-neutral restrooms, and accessible areas for guests with disabilities. An inclusive venue will go the extra mile to ensure everyone feels welcome and comfortable.
12. Trust Your Gut
At the end of the day, trust your gut. If something feels off or if the venue doesn’t seem fully committed to inclusivity, keep looking. Your wedding day is too important to compromise on inclusivity and comfort. There are plenty of venues out there that will celebrate your love story just the way you want.
Conclusion
Your wedding day should be a celebration of your love in all its beautiful, unique glory. By choosing an LGBTQ+ inclusive venue, you’re ensuring that every moment of your day is filled with joy, respect, and love. Remember to do your research, ask the right questions, and trust your instincts. With the right venue, your wedding will be everything you’ve dreamed of and more.
Feel free to share your own stories and tips in the comments below. We’d love to hear how you made your wedding day inclusive and special! And as always, for more inspiration and tips, stay tuned to Love Inc. Mag.
Cover photo: The Estate at River Run
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