My heart truly aches for all of our readers who are having to postpone their weddings due to the COVID-19 pandemic. I can’t even begin to imagine what it feels like to have to postpone a day that you’ve been dreaming/working/planning/saving toward for a year (if not more), and what it would feel like waking up on what should have been the happiest day of your life, only to be quarantined in your home.
There’s not really anything I could say to make the pain go away — and yes, you are absolutely allowed to mourn this! — but I wanted to share some ideas that will allow you to still make the day special.
- 1. Setup a Zoom or Skype with your DJ and have them play your first dance as you sway in the safety of your living room. Or, you could even have your wedding guests join in on the fun with a Zoom dance party! DJ Valentina did this recently for a couple using Zoom. “As a DJ, there is only so much I can do. Therefore, being creative and thinking outside the box is crucial to showing clients that I care. It is my way of giving back. Small as it may seem, I have received positive feedback from couples who LOVE the idea of being able to celebrate on their original wedding date. It’s a way to keep their spirits up and give them something to look forward to. After all, we ARE ALL in this TOGETHER!.”
- 2. Self-isolation is great for DIY projects, so tackle one together for your wedding. The extra time may allow you to work on projects that you originally felt were too overwhelming.
- 3. Enjoy a backyard picnic or candlelit dinner, bonus points if you cook something together that is on your wedding menu or get takeout from your caterer!
- 4. Work on a relationship scrapbook together. Looking through old photos and memories will help put things in perspective, and remind you how strong your relationship is and how lucky you are to have found each other.
- 5. Dress up! I know it’s easy to slip into loungewear every day, especially if you’re not going into an office, but fixing your hair/makeup/wearing actual clothes can do wonders for the soul.
- 6. Get married anyway! This is obviously dependent on where you live, as some marriage bureaus are closed, but some officiants like Love List member Ceremonies by Lori are offering special bare-minimum packages. Her “Make It Legal” package is a 1-2 minute ceremony that is simply what is legally required to be married. “If the couple wants a ring ceremony I will do it for them. I then sign the marriage license and send in to Register of Wills Office in their respective county,” she says. “I am only meeting couples in public places — front lawns, open parks — and it can only be the couple and children if they have any. She’s staying six-feet away and directs couples to place the license down and she comes to take it, gloved. Sure, it may not be the most romantic setup, but if you simply want to be married, this is a great option!