A Cheat Sheet to Gift Giving

Brittny Drye Founder + Editor-in-Chief of Love Inc. Magazine | On-Air Wedding Expert | LGBTQ+ Inclusivity in the Wedding Industry

There are a lot of pre-wedding celebrations, but as a guest, it's hard to know which ones call for a gift. From the engagement party to the actual wedding, let our cheat sheet guide you in gift-giving etiquette:

Engagement Party: No. People sometimes bring small tokens of congratulations for the couple but it's not expected.

Showers: Yes. Depending on if it's themed (i.e. lingerie shower), which the wedding party and/or host should communicate, you may or may not have registry products to choose from.

Bachelor/ette Party: No, but the person of honor should not pay for anythingā€”hotel, meals, drinks, activities, etc.ā€”it should be split amongst the rest of the group.

Welcome Party/Rehearsal Dinner: No. Whether it's a traditional rehearsal dinner or a welcoming party for all guests, gifts are not expected. The couple may use this opportunity to hand out their gifts for the attendants.

Wedding: Yes. Unless it's a destination wedding, you're expected to give a gift from their registry. If you're sending it after the wedding, be sure it doesn't arrive while they're away on the honeymoon.


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